Depression can debilitate our mind and body; it can disrupt our appetite, sleeping patterns, vitality, mental attitude, relationships, productivity, clarity and self-esteem. Depression is a lonely condition, causing us to isolate and become hyper-critical of our apparent inability to get on top of things.
If you relate to this, you are not alone! Almost 10% of us in the United States experience some form of depression in our lives.The good news
You don't have to feel this way. There is hope. 80-90% of the people who seek help feel better within two weeks. Depression is no time to go it alone. It's so tempting to think that you should be happy, and then berate yourself because you aren't. I invite you to give yourself a break, adopt a bit of humility about what you should be able to do and reach out for help. I would be happy to speak with you and answer any questions you have.
... And here is more information ... if you are in the mood for more reading.The bad news
Many people who are depressed don't reach out for help. For many, especially men, depression is seen as a personal weakness or failure that they should be able to just get over. Depression can be masked by drug or alcohol use. Alcohol or drugs allows for a temporary relief, but ultimately perpetuates depression and bad feelings, leading to another temporary solution with alcohol or drugs ... whew, what a vicious cycle!
What causes depression?
The three most common reasons cited for causing depression are:
- Painful or traumatic life events: Adversity, losses, separations and painful disappointments can build to a depression. The Santa Rosa Tubbs Fire in 2017 and the 2019 Kincade Fire triggered depression in a wide number of Sonoma County Residents.
- Negative thinking and lifestyle habits. Habitual, negative thinking patterns can wear down resilience and constructive responses to adversity. How we explain things to ourselves is often an important factor that determines our susceptibility to depression. Addictive and unhealthy lifestyle habits also fester depressive symptoms.
- Genetics and biochemistry. There is evidence of a genetic component to depression and a linkage to hormonal or neurochemical imbalance.
For more information please see articles about depression.
While it is possible that all three of these factors contribute to a clinical depression, each person is different. It's hard to know what the causes are without taking a holistic view of the person who is experienceing symptoms of depression.
How does therapy help?
When you participate in therapy, you are no longer alone with your depression. This fact alone brings a huge amount of relief to many people at the very beginning of our journey together. Here some of the ways our work together will help you feel better and find yourself again.
- We will explore and bring healing to unresolved events from the past that may be contributing to the way you feel.
- We will learn about the specific beliefs and ideas you've identified with that no longer serve you. Our work together will create the safety, and tools that enable you to release negative thought in order to make room for new ways that support and affirm you and the life you want to live.
- We will restore your resilience and ability to respond constructively to the difficulties that can arise in the course of living your life.
- Many people are helped by medication. This is a personal decision and one that we will explore together if it seems relevant to your situation. I don't prescribe medication. If medication seems like a direction we should take I will provide appropriate referrals.
My aim is your discovery of the resources within you to heal, grow, create, engage and interact.
The bottom line
If you are experiencing depression or depressive-like symptoms, I urge you to reach out for help. It's not time to be alone. Let's talk and see if I can help.
Therapy, Psychotherapy & Counseling - Licensed and Caring
- Creates safety
- Is a licensed therapist
- Has over 30 years of experience
- Works collaboratively with you
- Protects your confidentiality
- Offers a free 20 minute phone consultation
How do I get started?
Take some time to contemplate your situation. If you feel that you would like to meet me and see if therapy might be helpful for you, I will be happy to provide you a 20 minute phone consultation so that I can get a sense of your needs, answer your questions and provide you with some information about how I work.
If you'd like to speak with me or make an appointment, please call at 707-792-2654.